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Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Things not to say to a grieving person
Now I’ve learned theses the hard way because my beloved Richard has gone home to Jesus. And I’m sure before this I’ve said some of the most inappropriate things to people who have suffered the loss of a loved one… so this is not meant to condemn anyone. Just hoping I can save someone, somehow, somewhere some pain. So here are my top 4 right now...but this list can change daily...lol
1.The second years the hardest. (Please let me get through the first before you go predicting the future.)
2.Did you ever think of grief counseling? (When someone is just trying to share their grief and heart with you…even though it may sound really overwhelming because let’s face it... grief is. This is not the time to suggest counseling. We already feel crazy enough....please don't point it out. And really how do you council a spirit?)
3.Do you think maybe you should get rid of some dogs. (Ok so maybe in most cases you wouldn’t say “dogs” lol. But the last thing to say to a grieving person is to tell them to get rid of anything. They just suffered the greatest loss. It’s not a time to give anything else up. )
So then what do you say?
Not much at all…just listen...hug…or talk about good memories you have of their loved one.
Unless you really feel the Holy Spirit has given you something to say…and if you do be gentle… a person grieving is so tender even raw. I really believe the reason Jesus wept when he heard about Lazarus dying is he knew there was nothing he could say to comfort Lazarus's loved ones at that very moment…so he just cried with Mary and Martha for their pain. Even though he knew he was going to raise Lazarus from the dead he still had compassion on where they were.
Ok so last but not least…but definite my least favorite.
4.God just needed another angel. (The next flippen person that tells me that I am going to forget I’m a saved, sanctified woman of God and slap them! My husband is not an angel he’s a son of God. Furthermore God don’t kill people to stock his angle army. In fact God don’t kill at all…it’s the other dude (dirt face devil) that steals kills and destroys….read your word peeps!)
I will say this I do know that everyone that tries to comfort me even with inappropriate words is motivated by great love and concern for me and that I do receive. J
I’ll bring you back home—a great family gathering!... You’ll see it with your own eyes—all those painful partings turned into reunions!” God’s Promise.Zephaniah 3:20