Friday, February 15, 2013

Last will and testament.


I’m not sharing this story to bring any praise whatsoever to myself. Because I truly don’t have the ability to be this thoughtful outside of Jesus…trust me…lol .
Yesterday I had an appointment at my lawyers and with it being Valentine’s Day I just felt lead to bring her flowers and tease her since she made the appointment for that day she must want to be my Valentine.  Anyway when I was in the flower shop I asked God please show me what she likes…because I had noooo clue.  So the bouquet I decided on had a bunch of yellow roses in it.  Turns out yellow rose are her all time favorite flower, because they were her mother’s all time favorite, and no matter where she has ever lived she always has a yellow rose bush, because her mother always had a yellow rose bush. Now this is the reason I’m even sharing all this… because I never get tired of seeing Gods love at work in the life of others. God is so in love with us…He cares about every detail of our lives.  I don’t know anything about that woman’s life or why God wanted to show His love to her in such a tangible way but I do know she came away feeling so loved by God and so did I.  Yeah Jesus is the best Valentine!

Now totally shifting conversations here… but I just feel like I want to share this. The reason I was at my lawyers was to pick up my will. I know talking about such things makes many people uncomfortable. But we must face it …we are part of the ultimate statistic -10 out of 10 people die.  Richard and I talked many times over the years of what our wishes were if one of us went before the other.  Those conversations bring great comfort to me now.  But what I never would have known, was the great comfort I would have because my husband had his affairs in order.  And because of that I feel like I can’t stress it enough to people…. give this last gift to your loved ones. The heartache of losing you is more then you can even fathom.  Do whatever it is you can this side of eternity to make that pain not be even more by getting your affairs in order.  My sweet Richard even wrote me a letter that spelled out everything I needed to do. Even though he had verbalized it to me many times before his passing he still wrote it down.  Spelling out step by step what I was to do next. It was as if he was right beside me saying…"Ok Hon this is what you do …this is who you call..." I cannot tell you what a gift that has been! 

If you think about it Jesus did it…he told his disciples …"Ok I’m gonna go… this is what you do". (That’s Anna version…lol) But you can read throughout the gospels before the cross and after, him instruction them on what to expect. He knew the trauma and sorrow they were about to face.  He also knew it was all going to be worth it.  But knew they wouldn’t know that right away.  So he talked to them... he told them...over and over again. 
I guess the point I’m trying to make is he prepared them. And because my sweet husband did the same for me and now I am seeing how overwhelmed I would be if he hadn’t I  feel compelled to share it with as many people as I can. 
     And if by sharing this causes someone to give this gift to their loved one…. It will have been worth it. 


8 comments:

  1. What a sweet gesture to bring Valentine's flowers to your attorney. And to hear that they meant something very special to her is even more special. I couldn't agree with you more about getting your affairs in order. I made sure that my Mom and Dad did that years ago. And each year I review all the info with Grandpa Bob just in case something changed. Indeed a gift one can give their loved ones. Hubby and I have done is also. We want to be sure our puppers are taken care of should something happen.

    Like you said, those who have not taken care of this important stuff, get it done and don't wait. Your family will thank you.

    Nicely said Anna :)

    Hugs,
    Kim

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    1. Yup another reason I know we are soul sisters. I thank God my Richard showed me this wisdom. It also gives you peace. Thanks for sharing your wisdom friend.

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  2. Thanks Anna, for the poignant story... how special Jesus is that He allows His love to be shown through acts of kindness (like the yellow roses). Bill and I have talked about a will, but haven't taken the time. Through my Daddy's passing, I have seen what my Mom is going through, and she is doing a great job. But to have everything written down and spelled out like Richard did for you, is ... well... another kind of love and warmth from his heart. We will get moving on the will. Thank you for sharing my friend. you are awesome.

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    1. You are awesome too. Glad your Mom is doing well. Hugs

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  3. Thanks for reminding me that I need to prepare a will. My husband and I have been saying we are going to do one for years. With no kids other than the furry kind, we keep putting it off.

    Happy belated V-day. I've been reading since late last year and admire your positive attitude!

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    1. Hello! So glad to know your out there. :) Thank you for your kind words and I agree... have to take care of those fur baby's :)

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  4. I totally agree about the will. My father-in-law did the same for my mother-in-law. It really does take away a lot of stress to know exactly what to do. My husband and I have ours all set and I have the important phone numbers in a file. I finally filled out a living will last month too. It makes me feel good to know that my kids are taken care of if anything would happen to us. It truly is a loving gesture. I also appreciate it that my parents have done the same thing. It's so much less to worry about.

    It's not a fun topic of conversation, but it deffinately is a necessary one.

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    1. Thank you Anne for adding your wisdom. I agree about the living will and even power of attorney in some cases... in case you just become incapacitated for a time and need someone to handle your affairs. And your right it is a gesture of love. :)

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